One evening, an elderly Cherokee brave told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, ‘My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all.
One is evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.
The other wolf is good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.’
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked, ‘Grandpa, which wolf wins?’
The old Cherokee simply replied, ‘The one that you feed.’
So, which wolf are you feeding?
What are you focusing on in your day to day thoughts? Do your thoughts revolve around anger, regret, greed, guilt and so on? Or are you focusing on things like peace, love, joy, kindness, and compassion?
We have a tremendous amount of power over our experiences. What you focus on grows. What you’re thinking about all the time is amplified in your life and in your experiences. If you’re focusing on lack, sorrow, resentment, superiority, and jealousy because of the hardships in your life, that is what you’re going to see more of.
The reason for that is simple. When you make a statement in your mind, like “I’m no good” or “people are untrustworthy”, your mind looks for the proof to validate that claim. That’s just how the brain works.
If you, instead, say to yourself, “life is amazing, people are generally loving, there is joy and kindness in the world”, that is what you will see more of. Your life will be filled with more of those experiences simply because that is what you’re focusing on!
I can illustrate this for you, right now.. I want you to look around the room you are in now and look for all of the red objects. I’ll give you 10-15 seconds.. go ahead.
Okay, do you have a list in mind? Now, without looking around the room, I want you to list all of the things that are brown. I imagine your list is rather small. Do you see what happened there? You weren’t focused on all the brown items. you were focused on all the red items. It’s the same with your mindset.
What you focus on grows! Don’t just read it and say, oh, that’s nice. Believe it, internalize it, and live it.
Whatever wolf we decide to feed will correlate to what we see in the world. Or said in reverse, What we see in the world correlates to which wolf we are feeding. It’s interesting to think about it both ways because they mirror each other.
Now, maybe you’ve been feeding the wrong wolf. That’s okay, because you can choose which wolf to feed from here on out. You can choose right now, today, which wolf to feed.
The wolf parable is very similar to the concept of Karma. Are you putting out goodness and kindness or are you giving out negativity and hate? Whatever vibes or energy you give and put out there, you get back in return.
The reason why we don’t always see this is because sometimes it’s not reciprocated right away.. it may take time, but overall, whatever you’re giving in the form of thoughts, words, and actions, is what you will receive in life.
So, look for the good, focus on what you want more of in life, and express gratitude for what you already have. Your life experience is all about your mind-set. It has nothing to do with what’s going on out there in the world – it’s all about what’s going on in your mind and in your heart. It’s your perception and your attitude that dictate your life experience.
So, which wolf will you feed?
I am torn. Mad at my mom for not being a mom when I needed her the most.
I am feeding the evil wolf when it comes to my mother.
I don’t know what the right answer is? Bring up the pain.. let the truth be told.. again. Or forgive without a sorry, pretend that it doesn’t hurt any longer.
Forgive. It’s the only thing that will set YOU free.